"Hardcore Black-Belt Girlfriend Training"

I'm working with a new guy on my private forums, and although I'm pretty hard on him, I can't help but REALLY like this guy. His relationship skills totally SUCK, haa.. but he's a real "truth-seeker" who always comes back for more and more and more..

It's a real joy to teach guys like that, because he isn't afraid to put himself out there and to declare, "I don't know everything, and I really need to get this stuff!"

He's endured enough PAIN over the years to really, really want relationship mastery.

I thought I would re-post some of our dialogues on my blog for you guys, because I want y'all to be ready for the Bisexual Girlfriend Training Program. I don't care if anybody reading this wants to actually have "Interdependent Circles" with multiple bisexual girls or not - Circles are not important!

The upcoming BGTP is about wisdom, truth, love, and not to mention some serious "schooling" in female psychology. "Circles" are besides the point, and often more of a pain in the arse than anything else.

So yeah, I am posting the following dialogue from our private forums, to help get you guys ready for the next levels. ideaGasms.net is about to make a quantum leap, I'm very excited, so let's get started...

I've been with my current girlfriend for 6 months. We've had our incredible highs and incredible lows. But at the end of the day I trust her and I love her.

I'm going to pick on you a bit ;)

Does anyone here see me posting about how I trust Ghita? Or posting about how I love red wine to unhealthy proportions?

NOPE ;)

I don't post those things because I don't need to try and convince myself they are truths. [forum poster, name removed], you say you "trust" your GF, and while I'm certain that you trust her a little bit, or maybe more than a little... but the fact is... she still has a long way to go before she earns your trust fully 100%, otherwise you wouldn't mention it.

(I also know from previous posts of his that the trust levels are very, very low right now.)

Fact: Never, ever, ever trust an insecure human being, all insecure human beings are not yet trustworthy. If your girlfriend is insecure, she cannot, and should not, be trusted. Insecure human beings are not honorable, not yet!

And this is how you can spot when people are lying... why would he even bring this up?? It's because he's still trying to convince himself. It's just like when the salesman says, "Let me be honest with you today!"

Why would he say that, unless it meant that every other day he has been completely full of shit? An honest person doesn't try to convince you of things that are actually TRUE, because they are a GIVEN. Assumed. Presupposed.

I know there are times when she dosen't trust me, and there have been times when I was contemplating on leaving the relationship. But she is a loyal, open, honest (to me at least). I mean shes a great girl with talent who goes out of her way to do things for me. Or maybe to keep me.

No guilt please - it's normal for you to think about leaving a relationship that is filled with poison, insecurity, lack of trust, and drama. I also thought about leaving my girlfriend Ghita about one zillion times - when the going gets tough and women "cross our lines", our boundaries of what is acceptable, the only self-respecting thing to do is consider leaving them.

But, children need boundaries just as insecure women need fear of loss, and IRONICALLY it is with occaisional fear of loss that we make women feel SECURE.

Women don't want "relationship security" nearly as much as they need the security of knowing their man is stronger than they are, and that we have the inner security, inner strength to throw them out on their ass the moment they stomp on our core values.

Women feel SOOOO GOOD inside when we pump them with fear of loss that I am convinced women misbehave on purpose just to feel the "spank energy", because it is precisely that energy which makes them feel safe, protected, and SECURE.

I have even heard girls BRAG to each other privately about this.

"My man would kick your ass if you did that, girl! Last night he whooped me good! He told me that if I EVER do that again.." while other girls listen in and literally get wet just to hear the story.

The world is a fucked up place, and it's nice to know that the man they are with will not compromise himself or his life's purpose, because only weak beta-males ever do that. The ability to draw lines and have boundaries serves to remind women of what a good catch you truly are, and they literally go out of their way to slightly mis-behave ON PURPOSE just to get 'spanked'.

^^ The above often takes me months, even YEARS to teach my students, before it actually clicks. They always think I'm exagerrating to make a point, but I'm not exagerrating, I'm just telling them the way things are with today's women.

Women's emotions, and self-worth, are said to be like waves in the ocean - one day they are 'high', feeling awesome, feeling loved, feeling beautiful, validated... and the next day, BAM! ...They feel ugly, stupid, unloved, unworthy... so they act like brats, we spank, they feel secure, and their self-worth goes up again to where it was yesterday.

Over time, these waves become a little bit less intense, the highs and lows level out A LITTLE, and you know you're in a good relationship and running the ship properly when your woman AGE REGRESSES and starts to act like a little kid again.

This is a pattern I've seen with dozens of girls over the years (hundreds if we include students I've trained) they actually age regress because they feel SOOOOOOO SAFE that they relax into their feminine side and become little girls again.

And, what is the most attractive trait a woman can ever have?

*YOUTH*

We like blond hair because it signals to our brain that the woman is still young, FERTILE. We like big tits, not because they will provide more milk to our babies - that is a myth - we like those big titties because if the woman was old, they would sag. Large breasts are a sign of YOUTH. So are the blue eyes.. blue eyes change over time as women get older.. just like blond hair changes to brown, in time.

This is the reason men prefer big titted blond bombshells with blue eyes... those traits are merely YOUTH INDICATORS.

The biggest turn-on for men is YOUTH, and when our women are fully in love, fully in TRUST that we are stronger than they are and can take care of them... they then age regress into little girls. Almost three years I'm with Ghita, and to this day, I still very much desire her sexually because of this. She isn't afraid to let go, to act silly, like a kid again. She's bubbly, and *feminine*.

Your girlfriend isn't acting like a little girl, not nearly enough. I know this because you guys still argue, and also because of this next piece you wrote, about your obsessing over other women sexually.

But first, let's talk about her natural bisexuality getting stifled:

One thing about our relationship that puzzles me is why at the beginning of the relationship she was openly bi-sexual and told me she had oral sex performed on her by a girl as well as kissed many different girls. Now for some reason she is in the state of saying that its only me and her. And she wants to marry me bla bla bla shes not bisexual anymore. But sometimes when we drink she will joke about it? Or when she actually did get a girl who was open to having a threesome that girl would be alot uglier then she was. I'm clueless to why this has occured?

Two main reasons for this:

1. She is too insecure. Women are obsessed about their looks because that is a basic survival instinct. The better she looks, the better the males she can choose from to mate with. Now, if a hotter girl comes into the picture, she knows that deep down, you will prefer the hotter girl, and could possibly even LEAVE HER for this new girl.

She doesn't yet realize that by bringing you hot girls, she will have JOB SECURITY. What kind of IDIOT would leave a girl who brings him hotter girls?? See what I mean? It is common sense - why the fuck would you leave her, for bringing you hot girls? Only an IDIOT would leave her, and that is precisely what she thinks you are.

I will explain ;)

2. Do you still give your power away to women? YES YOU DO! And this is the second reason she would only bring home ugly girls.

I know that you do this A LOT, because in a previous post you talked about how you and your GF still argue and 'fight' about things. Arguing shows weakness in frame, it shows incongruence on your part. When you argue with a woman, you've already given your power away to her. It's a done deal - you've taught her that you are weak. You let your ego run the show when you argue. Arguing is based in fear of loss.

Listen - I never argue with girls because I don't argue THE TRUTH. You don't see me arguing with people about how the sky is blue, because I KNOW the sky is blue, and fuck them if they are too stupid to know this. I won't waste my time (compomise my life's purpose) to argue with someone about the sky being blue.

Arguing just proves to your woman that you need her APPROVAL. Nothing will kill her trust more, nothing will kill her "plumbing" more than ARGUMENTS.

When you argue, it shows that you are afraid of LOSING THE GIRL. Sooooo afraid of losing her that you will actually allow her to manipulate you, to waste your valuable time with bullshit.. You will actually set aside YOUR TRUTHS AND YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE just to keep some miserable, insecure bitch happy. And funny, this is what's MAKING her miserable.

When you argue, you prove to your woman without a doubt that you are not a trustworthy man, because a trustworthy man SPEAKS HIS TRUTH without compromise.

So why the fuck would she trust you around OTHER WOMEN who are PRETTIER than she is?? She sees that you bend over and take it in the ass for her, an "8" (or whatever), now can you imagine when a TEN is in the room? That "ten" will totally enslave you!

> INCIDENTALLY, this is why we fear attractive people.. it is because we are afraid that we will become enslaved by them, because WE KNOW that we will give away our power to them down the line.

Look at this chick for example -



That playboy model scares us, we fear the approach because we know that we aren't yet solid enough (internally validated, "Heart-Centered") to handle her properly. We instinctively know, deep down, that we will PROBABLY end up sacrificing our own core values because "she's sooooo HOT" and we won't want to lose her. So, we will end up losing ourselves for that hot girl. We will forget who we are, we will forget our core values and our identity, and what could be more scary than that?

Your girlfriend's, they cannot VERBALIZE what I'm saying, they haven't spent entire lifetimes studying this stuff like I have, but they can all sense this stuff intuitively. This is why when some of you read my blog/newsletters etc. to your girlfriends, they freak out because I'm verbalizing EXACTLY what they have been trying to tell you.

Your girlfriend KNOWS that since you give your power away TO HER, naturally you will give it away to other women should she bring some home to you. And THAT my dear friend could cost her the entire relationship! It is NOT worth the risk, she loves and values you too much to ever let that happen. With uglier girls, she knows that she will still have the control.

Also I have a problem that has been occuring recently. It just seems like that since its the summer all girls are out flaunting their T&A and long hair and nice legs. Its just driving me nuts everywhere I go I feel this MANLY URGE to just wanna fuck all these beautiful girls I see. Older, younger give me the whole plate I want it all. Now I love my girlfriend and would never cheat but is this a form of leaking sexual energy? If any of you are famailiar with astrology, I am that sign and we are known for not cheating. My moon is also taurus which also refers to stability and not cheating. I'm a very loyal person but I wonder why I have these thoughts and these urges. Sometimes I will see a woman sitting down and I'll look at her I feel like ripping her clothes off and having some hot sex (not against her will of course).

The human biology is never loyal, in fact, loyalty is unnatural. The only reason I'm into loyalty is because the human race is deeply sick (mind-identified) and tends to make very lousy choices when it comes to sexual partners. We don't lead with our hearts, we lead with our mating instincts, and validation issues.

This is the first time in the history of the world that human beings are becoming evolved enough to open their Heart Chakras. So, I tell couples that they should probably consider being loyal with each other because it is very difficult to open our hearts, if we were running around sleeping with everyone, it would seriously mess with the program.

Circle Rule One:

"Fuck around WITH your girlfriend, but not ON your girlfriend."

Not to mention, we can get HIV and other dis-eases, to me it's just better to remain loyal. Once we're all enlightened, loyalty will go own the drain, but for now, I think it's a good idea.

BTW, for more about loyalty, Click here to listen to my "Lesbian With One Exception Brainwashing Routine" -
http://www.ideagasms.net/pub/ideaGasms_GTP_The_Lesbian_With_One_Exception_Brainwashing_Routine.mp3

Why are these issues occuring?

There are many, many reasons for this, other than your manly biological urges to enjoy sexual variety.

A symptom that always occurs when relationships are not healthy, when there is work to be done, is that we start thinking 'the grass is greener'. But, the grass is rarely greener because we tend to attract our reciprocal.

You're in a fucked up relationship right now, with lots of problems, and this is precisely the reason why you two should stay together. You're both getting SCHOOLED. If you decide to leave this girl because the problems are too painful to endure, you would both go out and attract new mates who have the exact same issues anyway. The grass is NOT greener.

Better it is to stick with each other through these hard times, and as long as you are both "truth seekers" I have no doubt that you can transcend all of these issues and more.

So this insatiable desire to fuck other women is biological, but it is also a symptom of being in an unhealthy relationship. Yes, I desire other women all the time, but my desire isn't TOO STRONG, because I enjoy being with my girlfriend so much.

In fact, I know that "ALL NEW WOMEN" will be a huge pain in the ass at this point because none of them will be close to Ghita's level.

Ghita understands me, she knows my Heart, and after three years she has become a "Steph Expert", a black-belt in the art of pleasing me. And the TRUST that we have is immense, so immense that when I compare her to other women they invariably will come up short, very short compared to Ghita.

When you can say the above ^^ about your girlfriend congruently, the pull, or desire to be with other women will not be nearly as strong as it is today. Your desire to be with other women is one of wanting to escape from the pain you are both causing each other.

Funny, whenever Ghita brings home girls, I automatically feel TIRED and even ANNOYED, because I know how much *training* the new girls will need before I can trust them. Today's humans are completely RETARDED when it comes to relationships.. how many girls do you guys know that are very good with respect to relationship skills?

Slim to none.

New girls feel like HOMEWORK at this point in my life, because as you all know, until a woman is trained to become a conscious, polarized lover... she'll be a constant pain in the ass ;)

Thanks for your questions, it's a pleasure to work with you. And please remember to use the 5D Compassion formula at every turn, because it will bring your consciousness up to such a high level that any and all 'relationship problems' will start to seem like a joke.

And they ARE a joke.

And above all, KEEP POSTING the issues as they arise. I'm getting ready to go on tour soon, so I won't be around to help everyone troubleshoot unless it's on the phone via paid consultations. Fortunately, when I'm on the road, you guys will also have Alex (sjstran12), and others, to help you out. So keep on posting, I have a good feeling about you two.

Many Blessings,
Stephane